Check out this bizarre (and sad) article from the New York Times about helicopter parenting, and note that two of the anecdotes are physician related. (Can you imagine interviewing for an attending position with your dad present?)
Along those lines, I’d recommend the New York Times best seller How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haimes for any parents who read this blog. (Disclaimer: Julie was one of my frosh resident assistants at Stanford.) Julie gave a great interview on Fresh Air last year.
My policy at Insider is to work exclusively with applicants (not parents or spouses) to maintain confidentiality, avoid redundancy, and ensure candidates assume primary responsibility for their work. It’s been a winning strategy.